Carpe Diem – Day 271

March 1, 2011 No Comments


365 Days to a Balanced Life – Day 271 


” You are as young as your faith, as old as your doubt; as young as your self-confidence, as old as your fear; as young as your hope, as old as your despair.” – Douglas MacArthur 

Prior to my stroke two and a half years ago at the age of 52 I used to think I was young and still had so much life left in me.  However since then I have found myself increasingly thinking about getting old.  This is not healthy I know and it really depresses my husband Jack who is 11 years older than me and doesn’t feel or think like a 66 year old ( My son’s explanation is that men are just more immature).  Given that I do believe in the power of attraction these thoughts scare the hell out of me!

It is not like I have curled up into a ball waiting for the flowers to arrive and the organ music to start.   I continue to be active and have plans not only to write a book but to start two new businesses.  For more than two years I have been hoping this was just a phase I was going through and that it would eventually dwindle in my thoughts.  It hasn’t.  Now facing the big “55” in May (isn’t that the new 45?), I realize I have to stop this nonsense and make the most of the next 15 years of my youth.  :)

So I went in search of words of wisdom and found an inspiring book “You Could Live a Long Time Are You Ready?” by Lyndsay Green.  This is a must read for those who are in their elder years or plan to get there.  Lyndsay focused on interviews with her “Top 100 Elders” that seem to be happy and thriving in their old age (75-100).  I particularly liked the 84 year old woman who plans to spend two more years in a Not For Profit Organization and then she will start a business!  How inspiring is that?  Or how about the 75 year old gentleman who still holds down a full time job AND many volunteer commitments.

There are many things to learn from our elders but mostly I have been reminded to seize the day, practice forgiveness, take myself less seriously, don’t put off what I want to do, be kinder and more patient with myself and others, keep developing friendships, keep active mentally and physically, keep laughing, practice gratitude and don’t waste time worrying about getting old because in most cases it is better than the alternative!

This is an important book that will help us teach our parents to accept and thrive in their elder years and shift our thinking on what getting old can be like.  I will definitely read it again when I become an elder (you see, it’s working already)! 



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